About


My name is Katie. I am 27 and getting to my best friend and the love of my life at the end of October. Her name is Marianne.

I’m a journalist by trade, feminist by raising. I’m inquisitive by nature and am just beginning to grow my activist roots. I believe the personal is political and the political is personal. The idea that we are one big happy family on earth is nonsense, differences are real and need to be shared and celebrated and used to create a better world.

This blog is to serve as both a celebration and critique of marriage, traditional or not. Bell Hooks once said:

I still think it’s important for people to have a sharp, ongoing critique of marriage in patriarchal society — because once you marry within a society that remains patriarchal, no matter how alternative you want to be within your unit, there is still a culture outside you that will impose many, many values on you whether you want them to or not.

I invite you to join me in this critique.

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  1. I love this critique! Yes, it is odd, as a feminist I disagree with the premise of marriage, yet agree to marriage equality–there must be a middle road that we are currently in the throes of creating. A new kind of partnership as we (hopefully) are moving away from the patriarchal definition of marriage. At the bookstore today, I got involved in a long talk with my teenage daughter when the back of the book we were looking at described the story of a teenage girl getting “pregnant with HIS child”…and I ranted about paternity versus maternity, ownership of women and children, and genetics–all as a result of the combination of these 4 words 🙂 …language is subtle, we must change the meanings of our words with subtlety. Glad you are starting a dialogue here and challenging the dominant idea of marriage in our culture. I shall enjoy your blog. Congratulations of your wedding, also!

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